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some days, i hate people
Jun. 3rd, 2011 12:57 am"Not to be too personal or disrepectful... is there a reason you wear a skirt?" asks the guest who just had me re-fax a couple of pages for him.
Blink, blink go I. "I... just prefer them," I manage to say, after a moment's stunned silence. I am wearing a basic black velvet sheath skirt that comes down about halfway down my calves. It's not a remarkable skirt in any way.
Seriously? Honestly? That's a question you ask? I just... I don't even. I seriously could not believe this was a question I was fielding.
As it happens, dear reader, and you may already know this: my choice to wear skirts is not religious (it is, also, not that much of a choice but that is a rant for another day). But either way, it's none of your damn business. And yet, if I say "That is personal," or "That's not your business," it comes off defensive, whether or not I actually am defensive. To be honest, I wish I'd managed to say completely neutrally, "I prefer them," with no inflection and no hesitation, because it gives nothing about the nature of that preference.
But, here's a newsflash: if you feel like you have to precede a question with "Not to be too personal or disrespectful," you are almost assuredly being too personal or disrespectful. So, you know, if you don't want to be too personal or disrespectful, DON'T ASK.
People! I swear, sometimes. >:|
Blink, blink go I. "I... just prefer them," I manage to say, after a moment's stunned silence. I am wearing a basic black velvet sheath skirt that comes down about halfway down my calves. It's not a remarkable skirt in any way.
Seriously? Honestly? That's a question you ask? I just... I don't even. I seriously could not believe this was a question I was fielding.
As it happens, dear reader, and you may already know this: my choice to wear skirts is not religious (it is, also, not that much of a choice but that is a rant for another day). But either way, it's none of your damn business. And yet, if I say "That is personal," or "That's not your business," it comes off defensive, whether or not I actually am defensive. To be honest, I wish I'd managed to say completely neutrally, "I prefer them," with no inflection and no hesitation, because it gives nothing about the nature of that preference.
But, here's a newsflash: if you feel like you have to precede a question with "Not to be too personal or disrespectful," you are almost assuredly being too personal or disrespectful. So, you know, if you don't want to be too personal or disrespectful, DON'T ASK.
People! I swear, sometimes. >:|